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Managing Back to School Anxiety

Managing Back to School Anxiety Kristen Roman, Psy.D. | Director of the Young Adult Program As the weather starts to cool down and Labor Day weekend approaches, many people are starting to think about the transition back to school. While this may be exciting because it means you get to see your college friends again or get back to the freedom you lost while living at your parents’ house over the summer, most of us inevitably experience some anxiety about […]

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The LIKE Movie Screening

The LIKE Movie By: William Benson, Psy.D. | Staff Psychologist On Monday, August 5th, CBT/DBT Associates hosted a pre-release screening of a new documentary called Like, a film about the positive and negative impacts of social media on our lives.  The Like movie had a particular focus on adolescents, interviewing teens and their parents about social media use.  As an audience, we were fascinated with the film, which made for an engaging and productive discussion afterwards. I have several thoughts about […]

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How to tackle summertime sadness?

How to tackle summertime sadness? By Michelle Litwer, Psy.D. | Postdoctoral Fellow Are you experiencing summertime blues and are bombarded with “you’re supposed to be happy in the summer, it’s the best time of year?” Are you struggling to live consistently with this statement? You are definitely not alone! There are many reasons as to why summer is not the season for everyone. Here are some of the reasons why: It’s hot outside: Heat can make people very uncomfortable- especially […]

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Living with OCD

Living with OCD By: Courtney Barich As I sit on the train, I am counting to six in my head. I am also slightly panicking that I just wrote that down for the first time because no one knows that six is my lucky, unlucky obsessive compulsive number.   I try to do everything in sixes. To name a few, I get into bed on a six, I take six steps before I sit down and I will only close […]

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Mindfulness on Vacation

Mindfulness on Vacation By Kristen Roman, CBT/DBT Associates Director of the Young Adult Program   Since going on vacation a few weeks ago, I’ve been thinking about how mindfulness can be used to help maximize our enjoyment of time away. Here are a few ideas for how to practice DBT mindfulness skills while on vacation:   One-mindfully (doing one thing at a time with complete focus on the present moment) This skill encourages me to slow down and enjoy one […]

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Breaking the Stigma

Breaking the Stigma Kyle Haney, Ph.D., Staff Psychologist Since 1949, May has been designated Mental Health Awareness Month by Mental Health America and other related organizations. Whether you struggle with depression, anxiety, relationship difficulties, or other mental health issues, daily life can be daunting. However, the stigma surrounding mental health may cause additional pain for those struggling in their lives. Organizations like the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)a estimate that one in five Americans is adversely affected by stigma […]

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Help! My Child has turned into a Teenager.

Help! My Child has turned into a Teenager. By: Alison Bellevue, Psy.D. | Director of Child, Adolescent, and Family Services As a parent, do you ever feel like as soon as you get a handle on what’s going on with your child, she changes? It’s as if your child can sense just when you are starting to feel confident and that’s when he changes the rules. This feeling of uncertainty often arises for parents and is most pronounced during the transition […]

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Setting SMART Goals

Setting SMART Goals Nicole Seligman, M.A. | Clinical Extern Have you ever thought about what thing you are really good at? Research suggests that if you optimize your strengths, you will see improvements in your relationships and enhancement in your health and well-being.* Although signature strengths are unique to each individual, research has identified three character strengths that are common in individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Creativity; Individuals with BPD have higher levels of originality during idea generation as […]

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CBT-I: It’s More Than Just Sleep Hygiene!

CBT-I: It’s More Than Just Sleep Hygiene! By: Tory Tomassetti, Ph.D. | Staff Psychologist Tuesday, 3:00am, another sleepless night. You’ve watched the hours tick by on the clock- an illuminated analogue clock because you know not to use your cellphone for this purpose anymore. As you lie in bed dreading the day to come, you wonder why the sleep hygiene tools you read about on BuzzFeed aren’t working. Tuesday night, 11:00pm. You can feel the tension throughout your body. You […]

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How to make friends as a grown-up

How to make friends as a grown-up By Kristen Roman, CBT/DBT Associates Director of the Young Adult Program   I’ve recently been talking with several friends and clients about how difficult it can be to make friends once you are out of the context of a school environment. Whether you have moved to a new city, or find that many of your friends have moved out of the city you’re in, it can be an isolating experience to try to […]

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What are your Values?

What are your Values? By: Michelle Litwer, Psy.D. | Postdoctoral Fellow   You may have been asked the question, “What are your values?”, and it may have been difficult to answer that. Let’s take a step back and talk about what values really are and how identifying values may be useful in your life. Although there are COUNTLESS definitions of Values, here are some of the key elements to think about when discussing values: -Activities that give our lives meaning. […]

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Winter Blues

Winter Blues By: Nicole Seligman, M.A. | Clinical Extern Are you noticing a change in your mood as it gets colder outside? Do you find yourself feeling slowed down and have a difficult time waking up in the morning? Surprisingly, 6-14% of people in the United States experience an increase in depression during the winter months, a phenomenon known as major depression disorder with seasonal pattern.* What can you do right now to counter the winter blues?   Light Therapy. Experience […]

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School Refusal

School Refusal By: Alison Bellevue, Psy.D. | Director of Child, Adolescent, and Family Services Is it extraordinarily hard to get your kid out the door for school? Does your son insist that he has a stomach ache and can’t make it in that day? Does your daughter pretend she doesn’t hear her alarm or your frequent requests to get out of bed? If you can relate to this, your child may be experiencing school refusal. With the holidays coming up, it […]

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Breaking the New Year’s Resolution Curse: How to Make the Most out of Your Goals

Breaking the New Year’s Resolution Curse: How to Make the Most out of Your Goals By: Kyle Haney, Ph.D., | Staff Psychologist It’s January 1st and many people across the United States are waking up, ready to start 2019 and decide it’s “time to make a new year’s resolution!”  Whether it’s the decision to eat healthier, run the New York City marathon, give up chocolate, or connect more with family, we all start off the year energized and excited about the positive […]

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What is Cognitive Therapy?

What is Cognitive Therapy?  By Dr. Lisa A. Napolitano, J.D., Ph.D. | Founder and Executive Director   Maybe a friend’s recommended it or you’ve read about it in the New York Times. What is cognitive therapy any way and what’s all the hype about? Cognitive Therapy was created by University of Pennsylvania psychiatrist Aaron Beck in the 1960s. At the time it was created, cognitive therapy marked a radical departure from the dominant therapy, namely psychoanalysis. Interestingly, Dr. Beck was […]

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How old is old enough for therapy?

How old is old enough for therapy? By: William Benson, Psy.D. | Staff Psychologist   I’ve often been asked what age are the youngest children I work with.  The common reaction when I say that I regularly see children as young as 3 is “3?  What do you do for a kid that young?” I think the idea here is a that a 3-year-old does not even understand what therapy is and would not really be able to gain the kind […]

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“Adulting” By Kristen Roman, CBT/DBT Associates Director of the Young Adult Program The period after college graduation while searching for a job can be an aimless, frustrating time. For many, it can be challenging to lose the natural social network, activities, and purpose that life as a college student offers. After having relatively well-defined goals for the first 22 years or so of their lives, many feel lost without the comfort of their identity as a student. Frequent rejections from […]

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Why Couples Therapy May Be Right For You

Finding Acceptance, Promoting Change: Why Couples Therapy May Be Right For You Answering Your Questions about Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy By Tory Tomassetti, CBT/DBT Associates Staff Psychologist “Why won’t you just go with the flow?” “You’re so disorganized!”  “Why did we even get married?” Here’s a better question: How can couples therapy work for every couple?  Let’s face it: sometimes, familiarity breeds contempt. The spontaneity that you used to love about your partner now feels […]

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Top 5 Cyber Safety Tips

Parenting to Promote Cyber Safety: Top 5 Tips – Alison Bellevue, Psy.D.   For parents and professionals, keeping up with the changing technologies used by our kids can be an overwhelming task. As a result, when it comes to monitoring children’s use of tech and social media, parents are often drawn to one of two equally unappealing strategies: conflict or avoidance. This is why I’m so excited to bring back last year’s Free Community Night: Parenting to Promote Cyber Safety! This […]

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When Your World is Shrinking: How to Overcome Your Phobia and Get Out There!

When your world is shrinking: How to overcome your phobia and get out there! – Tory Tomassetti, Ph.D. Driving over a bridge. Joining the rooftop party. Having your blood drawn. If you avoid any of these situations or suffer through them with extreme discomfort, you might have a specific phobia.  Many people develop fears of situations (e.g., being in a small space), objects (e.g., needles, dogs), or experiences (e.g., flying) that cause some impairment or discomfort in their daily life. When this fear […]

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Finding Focus: Overcoming Procrastination and Reaching Your Goals

Finding Focus: Overcoming Procrastination and Reaching Your Goals – Kristen Roman, Psy.D. Procrastination is a fairly universal experience, even among some of the most successful people I know. Whether demands placed on us by others or tasks in line with our personal objectives, we all have things that we want to avoid doing at times. However, some people seem to resign themselves to procrastination (i.e. “that’s just how I am”), and adjust their routines to accommodate these tendencies. Others may find […]

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Overcoming Adolescent Anxiety

Overcoming Adolescent Anxiety – Jessica Nagel, Psy.D. The most comprehensive national survey data suggest that 32% of adolescents (ages 13-18) have an anxiety disorder1. Social anxiety, symptoms of which can be visible as early as age 5, accounts for nearly half of these diagnoses, with 12.1% of adolescents meeting criteria2. Why then, do we hear so little about adolescent anxiety and why can it be so difficult to find resources and treatment options, especially groups? For one, we often see […]

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Exercise and Your Mental Well-Being

Exercise and Mental Benefits Exercise is hard. Period. Even as an avid runner and yogi, I sometimes find myself groaning in the morning as my alarm goes off when the streets are still dark. But every day I choose to lace up my running shoes anyway. Some days, I feel great and ready to move. Other days, I feel less motivated and struggle to find my groove. Over the years, I’ve learned to listen to my body and accept what […]

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Introducing Organizational Skills Training: Targeted Individual Sessions and a Middle School Group

Organizational, Time Management, and Planning (OTMP) Skills Training When I tell people I am an expert in organizational skills, I have a tendency to want to hide my desk from view. In reality, I am not the most organized person. Not everything in my office is color-coded or indexed. The truth is that for most people, having consistent organizational methods is not necessary all of the time. As long as you are able to get your work done efficiently and […]

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Community Night Workshop (September 7): How to Choose a Therapist: Child, Adolescent, and Family Treatment Options

Community Nights Workshop: How to Choose a Therapist: Navigating Child, Adolescent (Under 18), and Family Treatment Options Ever since childhood I knew I wanted to work with kids. Well, first I actually wanted to be a dolphin trainer, but soon after it was always something to do with children: a teacher, then a pediatric cardiologist, and finally a clinical child psychologist. Because I knew I wanted to specialize in treating kids and adolescents, I thought that once I was accepted […]

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Community Nights Workshop (August 2): Finding Focus

Community Nights Workshop: Finding Focus   I’m Dr. Kristen Roman, a staff psychologist and Director of the Young Adult Program at CBT/DBT Associates. I’m excited to announce Finding Focus, the sixth workshop in our ongoing Community Nights Workshop series, which is free to the public. Finding Focus will offer resources and teach practical skills for those looking to reach their goals more effectively. As a clinical psychologist who specializes in working with college students, recent graduates, and those transitioning to the […]

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Community Nights Workshop (May 4, 2017): Helping a Student with Test Anxiety

Community Nights Workshop: Helping a Student with Test Anxiety   I’m Dr. Ilana Luft, a staff psychologist and director of Child, Adolescent and Family Services at CBT/DBT Associates, and I am pleased to announce the fourth workshop in our new Community Nights Workshop series. Community Nights are free, open to the public and designed to offer resources, support, and psycho-education on a variety of topics that are relevant to New York metro area families. Our staff-led workshops address common challenges […]

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Community Nights Workshop (April 6, 2017): Helping a Child on the Autism Spectrum Transition from Home to Independence

Community Nights Workshop: Helping a Child on the Autism Spectrum Transition from Home to Independence   I am Dr. Julie DiMatteo, a post-doctoral fellow at CBT/DBT Associates, and I’m excited to announce the third workshop in our new Community Nights Workshop series. Community Nights are free, open to the public and designed to offer resources, support, and psycho-education on a variety of topics that are relevant to New York metro area families. Our staff-led workshops address common challenges related to […]

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Mental Health Myth-Busters: “Binge Eating Disorder is Something I Have, Not Something I Do”

Mental Health Myth-Busters: “Binge Eating Disorder is Something I Have, Not Something I Do” According to a new commercial for Vyvanse, binge eating disorder is like the measles or the flu. It’s something you have, not something you do. It’s an “illness” completely unrelated to your behavior. Therefore, the treatment of choice is Vyvanse or some other prescribed medication. This is very misleading. So what is binge eating disorder (BED) anyway? A binge episode is defined as consuming an excessive […]

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Powerball as an Opportunity

Powerball as an Opportunity In the wake of last week’s Powerball drawing, you’ve undoubtedly read or heard about the potential psychological hazards of Powerball. It preys on our delusional belief that the practically impossible from a statistical viewpoint could be possible for us. Then, we’re left reeling with the crushing disappointment of not winning or (more likely) the embarrassment at having played. I would like to suggest a different point of view: the Powerball is an opportunity. It’s a catalyst […]

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